Psychology

The Sweet Spot: The Pleasures of Suffering and the Search for Meaning

The Sweet Spot: The Pleasures of Suffering and the Search for Meaning

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  • Create Date：2021-11-04 06:21:14
  • Update Date：2025-09-06
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  • Author：Paul Bloom
  • ISBN：B08VMX8G6Y
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Maher Razouk ，

عندما تسير الحياة بشكل جيد ، يمكننا أن ننسى مدى ضعفنا。 لكن التذكيرات في كل مكان。 هناك دائمًا احتمال حدوث ألم - ألم مفاجئ في أسفل الظهر ، أو في الساق ، وظهور بطيء لصداع نابض。 أو الضيق العاطفي ، مثل هذه الأمثلة تلمس السطح فقط。 يبدو أنه لا يوجد حد للبؤس الذي يمكن أن نختبره ، غالبًا على أيدي الآخرين。أبسط نظرية عن الطبيعة البشرية هي أننا نعمل كل ما بوسعنا لتجنب مثل هذه التجارب。 نسعى وراء المتعة والراحة ؛ نأمل أن نجعلها الحياة سالمة إلى حد ما。 المعاناة والألم ، بطبيعتهما ، يجب تجنبهما。 أصبحت خبيرة الت عندما تسير الحياة بشكل جيد ، يمكننا أن ننسى مدى ضعفنا。 لكن التذكيرات في كل مكان。 هناك دائمًا احتمال حدوث ألم - ألم مفاجئ في أسفل الظهر ، أو في الساق ، وظهور بطيء لصداع نابض。 أو الضيق العاطفي ، مثل هذه الأمثلة تلمس السطح فقط。 يبدو أنه لا يوجد حد للبؤس الذي يمكن أن نختبره ، غالبًا على أيدي الآخرين。أبسط نظرية عن الطبيعة البشرية هي أننا نعمل كل ما بوسعنا لتجنب مثل هذه التجارب。 نسعى وراء المتعة والراحة ؛ نأمل أن نجعلها الحياة سالمة إلى حد ما。 المعاناة والألم ، بطبيعتهما ، يجب تجنبهما。 أصبحت خبيرة التنظيف ماري كوندو غنية ومشهورة من خلال تعليم الناس التخلص من الممتلكات التي لا "تثير الفرح" ، ويرى الكثيرون أن هذا التطهير هو نصيحة ممتازة للحياة بشكل عام。لكن هذه النظرية غير مكتملة。 في ظل الظروف المناسبة والجرعات المناسبة ، فإن الألم الجسدي والألم العاطفي والصعوبة والفشل والخسارة ، هي بالضبط ما نبحث عنه。فكر في النوع المفضل لديك من التجارب السلبية。 ربما تذهب إلى الأفلام التي تجعلك تبكي أو تصرخ أو تفكر。 أو قد تستمع إلى الأغاني الحزينة。 قد تداعب القروح ، وتأكل الأطعمة الغنية بالتوابل ، وتغمر نفسك في حمامات ساخنة جداً ومؤلمة。 أو تتسلق الجبال ، وتركض في سباقات الماراثون ، وتتعرض للكمات في الوجه في الصالات الرياضية。 لقد عرف علماء النفس منذ فترة طويلة أن الأحلام غير السارة تكون أكثر تواترًا من الأحلام السارة ، ولكن حتى عندما نحلم أحلام اليقظة - عندما يكون لدينا سيطرة على المكان الذي نركز فيه أفكارنا - غالبًا ما نتجه نحو السلبية。اتضح أن النوع الصحيح من الألم يمكن أن يمهّد الطريق لمزيد من المتعة في وقت لاحق ؛ إنها تكلفة ندفعها مقابل مكافأة مستقبلية أكبر。 يمكن للألم أن يصرف انتباهنا عن مخاوفنا ، بل ويساعدنا في تجاوز الذات。 اختيار المعاناة يمكن أن يخدم الأهداف الاجتماعية ؛ يمكن أن نظهر مدى قوتنا أو على العكس من ذلك ، يمكن أن تكون بمثابة صرخة طلبًا للمساعدة。 المشاعر غير السارة مثل الخوف والحزن هي جزء من اللعب والخيال ، ويمكن أن توفر بعض الرضا الأخلاقي。 ويمكن للجهد والنضال والصعوبة ، في السياقات الصحيحة ، أن يؤدون إلى مباهج الإتقان والتدفق。。Paul BloomThe Sweet SpotTranslated By #Maher_Razouk 。。。more

Tiina ，

I really enjoy the way Paul Bloom writes and explains things， coincidentally one of the only people who I always enjoy listening on any podcast。 This book was entertaining and thought provoking， made me learn things about myself and the people around me。

Meredith ，

I won this book in a Goodreads giveaway。 That has not influenced my review in any way。What if life was nothing but goodness？ What if you could choose that nothing bad ever happened to you again？ That's quite a tempting offer！ Many people would go for it。 What Bloom explains in this book the benefits of taking the bad with the good--particularly when the bad is something he calls "chosen suffering。" Bloom claims that chosen suffering not only serves to enhance our good and pleasurable experiences I won this book in a Goodreads giveaway。 That has not influenced my review in any way。What if life was nothing but goodness？ What if you could choose that nothing bad ever happened to you again？ That's quite a tempting offer！ Many people would go for it。 What Bloom explains in this book the benefits of taking the bad with the good--particularly when the bad is something he calls "chosen suffering。" Bloom claims that chosen suffering not only serves to enhance our good and pleasurable experiences even more， but it serves as a way to bolster human connections and help give out， frankly miraculous， existence meaning。This book is compelling not only because of the content， but the impact it had on me as I read it。 There were many times when I paused reading to do some introspection or think about related experiences I've had。 This book took my mind to fascinating places and really is great food for thought！ 。。。more

Marne - Reader By the Water ，

Not a good fit for me， so I’m abandoning it at 10%。 Impressed that in these few pages， the author quoted both Viktor Frankl and Eminem。

Chris Boutté ，

It took me far too long to start reading Paul Bloom’s books， but once I started， I couldn’t stop。 After binging his other books like Just Babies， How Pleasure Works， and Against Empathy， I was itching for more from Bloom， and fortunately， I was able to get an advanced copy of this new book。 This book was inspired by Bloom taking a look at the world and seeing our high rates of suffering while also this rise in people trying to find happiness through self-help and pop psychology。 In Paul Bloom fa It took me far too long to start reading Paul Bloom’s books， but once I started， I couldn’t stop。 After binging his other books like Just Babies， How Pleasure Works， and Against Empathy， I was itching for more from Bloom， and fortunately， I was able to get an advanced copy of this new book。 This book was inspired by Bloom taking a look at the world and seeing our high rates of suffering while also this rise in people trying to find happiness through self-help and pop psychology。 In Paul Bloom fashion， he started asking himself a bunch of questions about pleasure and suffering， and this book is a culmination of his research and theories about how we can find the “sweet spot” between pain and pleasure。 This book is insanely good and like nothing I’ve read before （and this is coming from someone who reads hundreds of non-fiction books a year）。 Is there such thing as too much pleasure？ Why do we find more satisfaction after suffering？ Is there something about people who self-harm that we’re not seeing？ Bloom tries to answer all of these questions and so much more， and the book really makes the reader reflect on how we pursue pleasure。 Sometimes， there are books that are so good and thought provoking that even though I want to binge them， I have to take some time after each chapter to really let it all sink in， and that’s what this book does。 The Sweet Spot has such a great blend of psychology， philosophy， and scientific research， and I really think it’ll help a lot of people have a shift in perspective when it comes to how we perceive many important topics when it comes to our personal well-being。 。。。more

J Earl ，

The Sweet Spot from Paul Bloom is an enlightening read that draws as many points from the reader's own mind as from any theory。 I'll explain momentarily， but what Bloom excels at is explaining his ideas through analogy and anecdotes such that we gain quite a bit of knowledge without realizing it。I'll start by admitting I like Bloom's work。 I am not always in complete agreement but I can count on him to make me think about and reconsider many of my own ideas。 In addition to several of his books I The Sweet Spot from Paul Bloom is an enlightening read that draws as many points from the reader's own mind as from any theory。 I'll explain momentarily， but what Bloom excels at is explaining his ideas through analogy and anecdotes such that we gain quite a bit of knowledge without realizing it。I'll start by admitting I like Bloom's work。 I am not always in complete agreement but I can count on him to make me think about and reconsider many of my own ideas。 In addition to several of his books I also took a couple of his online MOOCs， and his books are a lot like listening to his lectures。 Before you think that is a negative， let me explain。 His lectures are almost conversational in tone， so the book is also almost conversational in tone。As humans we have an amazing ability to state unequivocally that we believe two things that are not only incompatible but contradictory。 An area where we do this quite a bit is when we discuss the purpose of life or， another way， how we live our lives。 Are we pleasure seeking animals， plain and simple？ Are we selfish and only think of our own best interests？ And so on。 Bloom doesn't so much counter all of the ways we think about this as make us think about all of them with more nuance and less certitude。 Like so many things， how we define a term makes a big difference。 Pain or suffering defined using a broad spectrum allows for more variation in how we will answer the question about whether suffering （sometimes and certain types） is good and even desirable。This book entertains while it educates， and many of Bloom's points seem to be drawn from our own experiences。 His examples of ways of thinking or acting will resonate with us and from these he illustrates the value， and necessity， of suffering。 In particular when it serves to give our lives some meaning。My convoluted commentary does not do the book justice， but hopefully it shows how Bloom engages his readers to consider old ideas with a bit more nuance。 Reviewed from a copy made available by the publisher via NetGalley。 。。。more